While tending to my own self care this past couple of weeks, talking with friends and my community on social media, I was reminded how it’s most definitely not just me who has been flagging.
I feel like our generation of Mothers will look back at our journey and this time will massively stand out. The extra time with our loves has been wonderful for many and it has also been tough. Homeschooling when we didn’t choose it as our path has asked us to dig deep. Losing our childcare and support structures has planted it all firmly on our shoulders. Goodness only knows how so many have also been working from home while juggling it all. And that’s before you factor in the intensity of the big feelings flying around your home on any given day.
My children are now 10 and 7 (blink of an eye, honestly) and I’ve felt at times like I went straight back to the days when they were toddler and pre-schooler in terms of how needed I’ve been. The needs are different and thankfully they throw themselves from heights much less than they used to but there have been many days where I could not finish a thought and have hidden in the loo just to have a breather.
I think for many of us the demands on our time and energy have been heightened significantly. And in direct correlation the ease at which we could access our usual or desired self-care practices has diminished.
Is it suprising then that so many Mums on their knees with exhaustion?
If you have school age children, holidays are now beginning. Hurray for slower days without home-learning perhaps but also hello expectation of curating a wonderful Summer when we already feel spent. If your children are littler, perhaps your childcare and support structures have returned in some form but it often feels like a drop in the ocean when you’ve been juggling and plate-spinning for such a long time. For some, nothing has changed at all yet.
I don’t have a magic wand. I wish I did. But with all this in mind and having been working on my own reset, I wanted to offer something that might help set some more Mums back on the path to nourishing self-care and feeling better in themselves.
So I’ve put together a Summer Self-Care Check-In which I’ll be posting on Instagram and on my facebook page next week. Starting on Monday it’ll be 5 days of prompts to help you begin to work out where you are, what you need and how you could move towards tending to your needs and feeling better in yourself. Plus there’ll be a wrap-up prompt on the Saturday.
It’s free and you can use it however you’d like to. There are no rules or expectations and you don’t need to sign up to take part. It’s just for you.
Here some ways you could use it:
- Firstly, turn on post notifications for my account so you can be sure you’ll be shown each of the prompts.
- Each day, read the prompt and if you’re able to take a quiet 5 minutes to sit with it. You could potentially read it in the morning and carry the prompt with you through the day – I do this sometimes – and see what it brings out.
- You may want the simplicity of just mulling it over and doing nothing else – that is completely valid, particularly if you’re feeling time-poor.
- You may want to find a trusted friend to do this with. Perhaps sharing which each other what the prompt brings up each day.
- You may want to talk it over with another loved one who is good at listening without fixing.
- You may find it helpful to journal your response to the prompts, either straight away or at the end of the day after you’ve carried it around with you. When I do this, I allow myself to free-write. Writing all that comes to mind without editing or filtering before it reaches the page.
- You may like to join in on social media with an insta post each day or some of the days capturing your response to the prompt. If you do, please tag #selfcarecheckinformums so I can follow along and see how you’re doing.
- It need not take a lot of time, but if it’s useful you can expand on it as much as you want.
At the end of the week my hope is that you feel more grounded in where you are, how you’re feeling, know more about the kind of shift you’re needing and how you could begin to move towards that.
Do share your experience with me if you’d like to by commenting or messaging; and please generously share with any Mum friends you feel might like to do it too. See you next week!